12 days of dreaming - day 5

Warning: goal setting may be dangerous to your health, it doesn’t always work and it may even be self destructive!

Here’s a dreaming skill that is so powerful it scares the pants off me.

Why?
Because asking these few simple questions has literally caused me to re-look all my goals for next year!

I could say, help! This is turning my life upside down!
Or I could say, hey, at last I’m getting clarity.

Isn’t is funny how so many people try to tell you the same thing and you just don’t get it. Then finally someone says this exact same thing in a slightly different way and this is what makes the light bulb go off in your head!

Here’s the technique. I touched on it on day 3. It’s from Jack Zufelt.

Jack makes a rather radical claim:
‘Goal setting not only does NOT work but it's negative and self-destructive for you.!’

Why does Jack say this? Because, to get what you want you first have to know what you want! When we don’t really know what we want we sets goals and don’t achieve them, Then, when we don’t reach these goals we feel like double failures. Or, even worse, we bust a gut achieving our goal only to discover that it wasn't quite what we wanted anyway. (you cna read about my experience of this right at the beginning of this blog site, 12 March 2007.)

Usually we don’t really know what we want because as children we have been shamed or told not to be so ambitious so we settle for lower, safer dreams and then we wonder why we can’t get all fired up about them.

Step one is, what really fires you up? What big dream do you want so badly that you’ll secretly do anything to get it? (Often we won’t own up to this dream because it’s been smashed as a child. Then we try to fulfil this dream in a round about way….eg. I’ll do this when I’m financially free or when I retire or after I’ve had 20 years therapy ….or …in my next life! )

What is your one core dream? Your unique spark? The highest expression
of who you are? What is the one thing that only you can offer the world? Something that you love doing more than anything else?

Usually, this is clearly defined in your fingerprints. But Jack has another method that will take you to the same point.

The only thing that really fuels us to achieve anything is desire. If your desire isn’t big enough you will not succeed. The trick is to connect with your deep core desire.

Whenever you set a goal or have a desire, ask yourself: how badly do I want this?

How can you tell if you really want something?

Find out what it takes to reach this goal. Then ask yourself, are you prepared to pay this price?

For example, to get a black belt in karate takes about 1 hour a day of training for 5 years. Are you prepared to pay this price? If you are not prepared to pay the price then take this dream off your list. Mostly we don’t find out what the cost is. We have the dream for years, we say our affirmations but we are not willing to take the steps necessary to make the journey.

To identify your core desires, Jack suggests the following technique:
Name your biggest goal for the coming year.
If you are not sure what this is then ask, what would I like to have that I’m not getting right now?
Then ask, if I had that, what would it give me that I’m not getting right now?

Keep asking this same question until you get to your core desire.

Once you find out what your core goal is all you need is a teacher.

To find out more about Jack’s techniques go here: The DNA of Success.

(Of course there’s an easier way. Just check your fingerprints. It’s all there!)

Happy dreaming!

Did I forget to tell you, your life purpose is visible in your fingerprints.
(Now why didn’t someone tell me this years ago?
Or rather, why didn’t I believe it!?)
;)
To find out what your hands say about your core desires go here

So, what does this have to do with the number 5?
Ummm… 5 fingers??

To further inspire you to dream big dreams for yourself:
here are 5 versions of Marianne Williamson’s famous quote:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv4mlFxLD90
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxRLhn188mI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jiv9IPOAgZk
http://youtube.com/watch?v=n8ACfpPn0MY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TBzVy8xe02o

... and in case you're sitting in the fog right now like half of Switzerland is,
here are 5 silly variations on the 12 days of Christmas:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owK5tHjL0aE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VraaEaOzYQ&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Fe11OlMiz8&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7d9X8CJkklI&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DsOvjxwAaN4

Summary of 12 days of dreaming
Day 1 - ‘as a man thinketh’ ebook download
Day 2 - the most important quote this millennium
Day 3 - parable of the three big rocks Day 4 - making decisions
Day 5 - finding your core desire
Day 6 - knowing your conscious mind
Day 7 – the seven laws of the universe
Day 8 – how to change your luckDay 9 – your nine environments
Day 10- tapping into your genius mind
Day 11 - stepping beyond your comfort zone
Day 12 - the 12 month, 24 hour grace shower

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Do you know what you want?

This week we are going to look at desire pollution. What is it?
Have you got it? And, if you do, what to do about it.

Desire pollution is a marker in the hand that’s always
fascinated me.

Why?

Partially because it sounds positively toxic, and partially
because it IS just that. Positively Toxic. Particularly if you
don’t even know you’ve got it!

Usually, if I see this marker in a person’s hand, there is no
point in talking about anything else. This is a life threatening
condition.

So what is desire pollution?

Desire pollution is caused when we loose touch with our own
deepest wants and needs. We confuse our own personal desires
with those of others. Sometimes this is caused during early
childhood when we have a too demanding parent, an overly
dominant or extremely needy mother, for example. In this
situation, we might learn to put our own needs to one side
simply as a matter of survival. Then we adopt the needs of
others as our own wants because that’s what brings harmony and
safety into our lives.

This is an extreme example. Another cause could be that we’re
simply picking up too much information from other people. We’re
ultra-receptive to the wants and needs of others. This is like
hearing several inner voices at the same time and you’re not
sure which is really yours.

In its most extreme form, desire pollution is called the ‘iron
vest’.

Terrifying name. Terrifying condition!

The effect creeps up on you gradually and the next thing you
know, the lights are on but no-one’s at home. You’re a stranger
in your own life, disconnected to your own deepest passions.
You’ll know you’re in the iron vest phase if you ever get there
because this is when your entire energetic system starts
shutting down to protect itself from further pollution, causing
you to loose all desire, including sxual desire. This is
different from ‘not being in the mood’. It’s like just not being
home at all.

So how do we avoid spiralling into this phase?

The remedy for desire pollution is time out. Time spent alone,
getting in touch with your own personal wants system and
rebuilding it from the ground up.

We humans are goal-orientated creatures. If we don’t have a goal
we’re like a heating seeking missile with no target. The result
is self-implosion. And if we give ourselves goals that are not
connected to our own deepest desires it’s like the wires of the
device are not properly connected to the real source of power.

So how do we connect our wires to our genuine power source? By
getting in touch with your own deepest wishes. What really
enflames you? What do you feel passionate about? What do you
really desire?

Is it possible that you don’t even know?

Whether you have this marker or not, here’s a brilliant exercise
to put the lights back on in your home.

Buy a box or two of index (3x5) cards and write just one of your
wants or dreams into the centre of each card. Write on the cards
vertically, rather than horizontally. Try to fill as many cards
as possible. Write huge things and little things. Material
wants, physical, emotional, and spiritual wants. What wishes do
you have regarding your family, your health, your finances, your
home, your government, your environment, your neighbourhood,
what do you want for this planet, your career, your friends,
work relationships, future travelling, food, exercise, your
spiritual development, outrageous fun, your artistic expression,
your parents, your brothers and sisters, ambitions, goals,
dreams…. Forget the how or the why for now. Just focus on
writing as many cards as you can dream up. Keep blank cards with
you and write on them whenever you think of a new quality or
thing you’d like to have in your life. Group these cards into
categories and keep looking at them daily. I’ve been doing this
exercise for the last year. It’s a fun thing to do and it’s
transformed my life. *

Even if you haven’t got desire pollution, I highly recommend you
get yourself a pack of cards today and start dreaming up a
bigger, clearer, more delicious future for yourself. It’s
possibly the most loving gift you can give yourself in this
lifetime.

Back to desire pollution. What does this marker look like?

Desire pollution is a star like formation that shows up on the
end of the headline. If you’d like to see what it looks like,
go here.

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If you’d like to find out what your talents are and how you
might be blocking your full potential, go here

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* This vision card exercise comes from Dave Ellis author of
‘Falling Awake’ .
You can explore his wonderful work and access 12 more strategies
on his free resource page